AAP BEETI

Somewhere I read that three  basics govern the  life  , character  & personality of a man . I am skeptical about the authenticity of this thought but this needs pondering.

These are      1.  Carefree

                      2.  Careful

                       3. Security 

Now let us examine these three qualities in any Child . Some are carefree , they damn care where they  are  ?  You can say they are fearless  . They are not afraid  whether their parents are near  or not.  This basic trait  is going to govern  their  personality in the coming years.  Their  personality development would be on that line , they would be Fearless. They  would not bother  about the Security & Safety in their decisions.

Next comes  Careful . For this trait , immediately  a  Sher  of  Muzaffar  Shahjahanpuri  comes to my  mind.

"Qabl  agaaz hi anjaam ka dar hota hai , 

"  Door  Andesh  bada  tang  nazar  hota  hai ."

  

So  Careful  Character  would  waste a lot  of  time  in  taking  care  of  the small  things , it is good  trait  but  one looses  the  beauty  of  real  life .  The  real  enjoyment   ,  happiness  and  pleasures  always escapes  his  life as at that  stage   he remains busy  in  small things  of  life  which  in  long  run  have  got  no  value.

We  are  at  such  stage  of  life    that  we  can  afford to look  back  and  examine  critically the anxious moments  of our life .  I  know  that  so  many  anxious  days  &  nights   were  wasted   because  I was  more  careful  of  little  things  and  failed  to  enjoy  the  life  at  that  stage.  Fortunately  few  friends  around  me were  of  Carefree  nature   and  now  I  know  that they  took  the  real  pleasure  of  life at  that  time   when  I  was  deep  sunk  in  worries.

Third  category is  Security . You would see  that  some  Children  starts weeping ,no sooner their mother is away and as soon as she comes in they  start  playing. This indicates  that  Child  is  Security  Conscious   , that  Child  would  be relaxed  when  his parents  are  in  sight  /  around.     Such   persons  when  grow   up  always waste  their  precious  moments  in search  of  Security . Naturally   Parents  are   not  there  so  they  will take  the  shelter  of  powerful , rich  persons  to ensure  their  security. They  will go out  of  way  to  keep them  in  good  humor  or pleased. In  that  search  of  Security ,  precious  moments  of  life  are  wasted   and  they  miss  the  real  enjoyment.  THEIR  OLD  AGE  MAY  BE  COMFORTABLE  BUT  EVEN  AT  THAT  STAGE  THEY  WOULD  NOT  BE  THE  BOSS  AROUND .


Real  happiness  lies  in  being  their  own  boss.  That  Power  gives  impetus  to  all  activities  and  that  is  life.